Summer Adventure List 2017…With a Twist

by Ilinap on April 23, 2017

Though it might seem like it, I never forget that I have a blog. I just forget to schedule time to actually write anything. There’s no shortage of ideas flurrying around in my head. Some are irreverent. Some are controversial. Some are whimsical. All are logged in a notebook that I carry around, yet so far, none has made its way to this space for a very long time. I miss writing. Sigh.

I’m starting with something simple to get my writing brain ticking again.

For years my sons and I have made a Summer Adventure List. It was admittedly a lot easier when they were younger and had fewer opinions. Back then they were energetic little boys who were delighted by the mist of the Museum of Life and Science and riveted by the felt storyboards at the weekly library story times. Now Bird and Deal are teetering on the cusp of 14 and 12. It takes more to capture their attention these days. Teen and tween years are hard, y’all. They want to spend more time with their friends, less time with mom. Based on the influx of hormones pinballing their way around the house, the same holds true for me sometimes. Ahem.

And the biggest shift this summer is that I’ve gone back to work. Full time. And I positively LOVE it.

However, adjusting to life with a working mom adds a different dimension to summer adventures. Gone are the days of eagerly hopping in the car for a trip to the zoo. Roaming the toy aisles at Target is no longer a valid way to kill some time on a hot afternoon. And gone are the days that I set the schedule and itinerary. This time, as the boys are getting older, I’m asking them for more input on what our summer looks like. Many of the things we have planned entail independent activities. Mac Daddy and I will certainly be around to act as chauffeur and chaperone. We will also make time to join our sons on adventures and help them learn to joyfully wallow in the luxury of boredom. I’m no idealist; I also recognize we will spend considerable time as referee and task master.

I’ve asked Bird and Deal to make a list of the following things to help guide this summer’s adventures. Together, we will map a summer that is based on what they want to do. There will be healthy doses of books, volunteering, experiments, putzing, and day tripping. We have a couple camps scheduled too. And of course, there will be loads of indulgences and multiple trips to Goodberry’s (We do obsessively check the flavor of the day), Amorino, and Pelican SnoBalls.

Things I Want to Learn

What I Want to Read

Where I’d Like to Volunteer

Places I Want to Visit



Rules to Live By

by Ilinap on February 24, 2017


I am a woman who loves rules. I also love pushing and stretching and bending rules that don’t make sense. I appreciate civil disobedience. I love a good protest. I’ve been writing letters to CEOs and Senators since I was 10. While I appreciate rules, I also appreciate using my voice to influence change. Rules are made to protect people and places (for instance, stop at crosswalks to let pedestrians cross safely). Arbitrary rules or downright harmful rules are another thing all together (voter ID laws, for example). I see you rule makers who impose rules just to bolster your own station and power. And I applaud you rule breakers who are leading the resistance.

Personally, I have my own set of rules to live by. My sons would tell you I have a lot of rules. I don’t deny it. I’m a Virgo so I appreciate order and tidiness. Rules help keep chaos away. Most of the time. I have a little litmus test of my own to gauge someone’s character, just a few rules I use to generally lump people into my Nope or Hell Yes buckets.

Must vote.

Seriously. I cannot tolerate when people do not vote. We are in this Trumpian dystopia because of the millions of Americans who simply didn’t vote in November. And by the way, when I say “vote,” I mean in every election, big and small. I mean really, they’re all big if you think about it.


Must like pets.


Let me clarify, I mean the furry variety. If you think snakes are pets then you go into my Nope bucket. I understand that some people cannot have a pet for a variety of reasons. But if you’re the kind of person who simply hates animals, you’re not my people. I’m talking to you, guy who kicked my dog at a party the other week. If I ever see you again I’m going to kick you back.


Must eat.

Food is everything in my family. We all love to eat. We choose our vacation destinations based on food. While we sit at the dinner table we talk about what we ate two years ago in Portugal or what we’re going to eat for breakfast the next day. Food is our balm. If you’re the kind of person who picks at rabbit food and doesn’t audibly enjoy a meal, you’re going to be low on my Hell Yes list. This is especially true if you don’t appreciate dessert. Life is short, enjoy a decadent meal.

So…now I’m off to do my part in the resistance, walk my dog, and plan what’s for dinner tonight.

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